陈凯转载/一个自由人的个体操守
Personal Character of a Free Being
陈凯一语:
一个自由灵魂的个体道德操守经常体现在他/她要求自己不去/不能做什么，而不是自己做过什么。 他/她是一个依原则而生活的人，而不是一个用利益的考量而定义自身的人。
Kai Chen's Words:
Indeed, a free being's moral character is often reflected/revealed on what he/she does not do, rather than what he/she has done. He/she is a principled being of greatness, rather than a moral pervert defined only by calculation of gains and losses in physical world.
精神强大的人 不会做的13件事:
精神强大的人会有一些健康的习惯。他们会用各种方式管理他们的情绪，思想，和习惯使得这些行为促使自己在人生中获得成功。提炼出下列的这些是意志坚强的人不会做的事，如果你也能做到这些，你也会成为一个精神强大的人。
1不在懊恼中浪费时间
精神强大的人不会无所作为，为他们的现状或者是他人对待自己的方式而深感抱歉，相反，他们为在人生中所扮演的角色负责，明白生活并非时时容易和公平。
2不炫耀自己
他们不允许别人控制他们，他们不会让别人觉得超过他们，他们从不说“老板让我觉得好窝囊“，因为他们了解他们有能力控制自己的情绪，选择性的进行回应。
3不回避变化
精神强大的人不会刻意去回避变化。相反，他们欢迎积极的的改变，乐意去变得灵敏。他们明白改变无可避免，并且他们有能力去适应那些改变。
4不浪费精力在他们不能控制的事情上
你不会听到那些精神强大的人抱怨已经丢失了的行李或者是交通拥堵。相反，他们会关注那些在他们生命中能被自己控制的事情。他们意识到有些时候，他们唯一能控制的东西就是他们自己的态度。
5不会为取悦每个人而担心
精神强大的人意识到他们没有必要时时去取悦每一个人。他们不害怕在必要的时候说不或者是把话说明白。他们追求善良和公正，但是如果他们不能使自己快乐，也能使他人同他们一起沮丧。
6不害怕冒预计的风险
他们并非鲁莽的去冒显性的危险，而是不介意冒预计的风险。在做重大决定之前，精神强大的人会花时间衡量风险和成本，在采取行动之前他们能充分的预知潜在的风险。 你可能对此方面的信息感兴趣：积极的人不会做的十件事。
7不会留恋过往
精神强大的人不会浪费时间留恋过去，静儿希望事情能够有所不同。他们认可他们的过往，并从中学到经验。然而，他们不会经常回想坏的经验或者是沉迷于过去辉煌的时光之中。相反，他们为现在而活并计划未来。
8不重犯相同的错误
精神强大的人为他们的习惯负责，并从他们过去的错误中获得经验。因此，他们不会一次又一次的重复犯错，相反，他们在将来会更好的获得进步和做出最明智的决定。
9不嫉妒他人的成功
精神强大的人在生命中会欣赏和祝贺他人的成功。当他人超越自己时，他们不会嫉妒他人或者是感到自己被欺骗，相反，他们认识到成功来源于辛苦工作，并且他们愿意把努力工作成为自己成功的筹码。
10失败一次之后并不放弃
精神强大的人并不会将一次失败作为放弃的理由，相反，他们会将失败作为一次成长和改进的机会并乐意去不断的尝试直至获得成功。
11不惧独处
精神强大的人可以忍受一个人独处不害怕安静，他们不害怕自己思想特立独行并利用以利用空闲时间提高自我。他们喜欢他们的同伴却不在友谊和娱乐上时时依靠他人，相反，他们独处时，充满了喜悦。
12不觉得世界亏欠他们
精神强大的人不会觉得在人生中，任何东西都是应该的，他们并非生而认为他们应该照顾他们或者是这个世界应该给予他们什么。相反，他们根据自我优势寻求机会。
13不期待努力即获成果
精神强大的人努力的改善他们的健康。 当他们从头开始一项新的事业，他们不会期待马上就能获得成。 相反，他们会发挥其最佳能力使用他们的技能和时间并明白真正的改变需要时间。
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13 Things Mentally Strong People Don’t Do
Mentally strong people have healthy habits. They manage their emotions, thoughts, and behaviors in ways that set them up for success in life. Check out these things that mentally strong people don’t do so that you too can become more mentally strong.
1. They Don’t Waste Time Feeling Sorry for Themselves
Mentally strong people don’t sit around feeling sorry about their circumstances or how others have treated them. Instead, they take responsibility for their role in life and understand that life isn’t always easy or fair.
2. They Don’t Give Away Their Power
They don’t allow others to control them, and they don’t give someone else power over them. They don’t say things like, “My boss makes me feel bad,” because they understand that they are in control over their own emotions and they have a choice in how they respond.
3. They Don’t Shy Away from Change
Mentally strong people don’t try to avoid change. Instead, they welcome positive change and are willing to be flexible. They understand that change is inevitable and believe in their abilities to adapt.
4. They Don’t Waste Energy on Things They Can’t Control
You won’t hear a mentally strong person complaining over lost luggage or traffic jams. Instead, they focus on what they can control in their lives. They recognize that sometimes, the only thing they can control is their attitude.
5. They Don’t Worry About Pleasing Everyone
Mentally strong people recognize that they don’t need to please everyone all the time. They’re not afraid to say no or speak up when necessary. They strive to be kind and fair, but can handle other people being upset if they didn’t make them happy.
6. They Don’t Fear Taking Calculated Risks
They don’t take reckless or foolish risks, but don’t mind taking calculated risks. Mentally strong people spend time weighing the risks and benefits before making a big decision, and they’re fully informed of the potential downsides before they take action.
You may be interested in this too: 14 Things Positive People Don’t Do
7. They Don’t Dwell on the Past
Mentally strong people don’t waste time dwelling on the past and wishing things could be different. They acknowledge their past and can say what they’ve learned from it. However, they don’t constantly relive bad experiences or fantasize about the glory days. Instead, they live for the present and plan for the future.
8. They Don’t Make the Same Mistakes Over and Over
Mentally strong people accept responsibility for their behavior and learn from their past mistakes. As a result, they don’t keep repeating those mistakes over and over. Instead, they move on and make better decisions in the future.
9. They Don’t Resent Other People’s Success
Mentally strong people can appreciate and celebrate other people’s success in life. They don’t grow jealous or feel cheated when others surpass them. Instead, they recognize that success comes with hard work, and they are willing to work hard for their own chance at success.
10. They Don’t Give Up After the First Failure
Mentally strong people don’t view failure as a reason to give up. Instead, they use failure as an opportunity to grow and improve. They are willing to keep trying until they get it right.
11. They Don’t Fear Alone Time
Mentally strong people can tolerate being alone and they don’t fear silence. They aren’t afraid to be alone with their thoughts and they can use downtime to be productive. They enjoy their own company and aren’t dependent on others for companionship and entertainment all the time but instead can be happy alone.
12. They Don’t Feel the World Owes Them Anything
Mentally strong people don’t feel entitled to things in life. They weren’t born with a mentality that others would take care of them or that the world must give them something. Instead, they look for opportunities based on their own merits.
13. They Don’t Expect Immediate Results
Whether they are working on improving their health or getting a new business off the ground, mentally strong people don’t expect immediate results. Instead, they apply their skills and time to the best of their ability and understand that real change takes time.
